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Life in the slow lane: exploring mid life

The other day, someone said to me: “I couldn’t do what you’re doing. I couldn’t have no structure in my day. I need to be busy. I need to be doing things.” Fair enough. Each to their own. But busyness to me feels like a trap that I want to use this year to wriggle free from. I’m going to give life in the slow lane a whirl.  Some people call it a micro-retirement . I’m not sure that’s quite the right term. It’s more a pause, a break between chapters. A chance to reflect what I’ve learnt and think about what might come next. There’s a concept in running called periodisation. You train hard for a block of weeks, then ease back, allowing your body to recover and adapt. The fitness gains don’t come just from the training itself, but from giving your body time to absorb the work. Nature understands this. Fields lie fallow. Heathland near us is periodically burned to create the conditions for new growth. Seasons turn. Things die back, endings happen, and space opens up for something...
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Leaving the Fast Lane

It’s been four weeks since my last day at the Mental Health Foundation, after eight years as Chief Executive and over ten years in total. I’m taking a break from work for a year - or what some now call micro retirement   It’s been like stepping through the wardrobe in the Narnia tales - blinking into the light of a world where things feel and look suddenly different. I like it here but I’m still coming to terms with the change of pace.   I underestimated how enriching leaving an organisation can be. I’m so grateful for the opportunity to say goodbye properly. To colleagues, donors, supporters and people who have been part of the journey.  I’m not naive. I get it was a self selecting audience and those who were less enamoured with my decisions or approach probably weren’t queuing up to say goodbye. But I still got to hear moving, generous and uplifting feedback from colleagues - some of whom I’d worked with for over a decade. We (I am guessing it’s not just me) spend so m...

Why am I running a 100 miles race? You may well ask!

    If you are going to do something that is hard, you better have a clear idea of why you are taking that course of action. Especially when it comes to running. Every reason you can find to persist is like a stave preventing a house from folding. So, this blog is part of my race strategy!   I picked up running in my early 30s and I haven’t stopped.   It’s been a brilliant way for me to process and organise my thoughts, deal with difficult emotions, build friendships and experience new vistas.   So, I’ve decided to try to run the South Downs Way 100 miles race in June and raise vital funds for the Mental Health Foundation , which I have the privilege to work for.   The goal is to complete the course in under 24 hours. I’ll need to get roughly 15,000 calories into my body, climb 12,700 feet and take at least 160,000 steps to reach the finish line. I know that if you give, every single donation will be another reason for me to keep going. ...

World Suicide Prevention Day 2018

Next month will be the five-year anniversary since my brilliant brother Daniel died by suicide.   Dan’s life was cut short before he was 40 years old leaving behind his loving wife and two beautiful young sons.  All preventable deaths are devastating. But suicide can shatter families and friends like nothing else I’ve seen.  I have gone onto understand that suicide is the biggest killer for all ages from 5-35 years old and the biggest killer of men under 50. It is without doubt the single biggest public health challenge on preventable deaths of our times . As a society, we need to bring together our brightest minds, our financial assets and the political will to see a sustained and significant reduction in deaths from suicide. However, this blog is both about the signs of progress we are seeing and also a simple message about what you can do today, tomorrow and every day to help reduce the risk of suicide for you and your friends and family. Here for...

My Stress Footprint

Written May 2017  Last month ,  I wrote a blog announcing stress as the theme of  Mental Health Awareness Week .    Reading c omments  on  social media to  a  blog is always an interesting and sometimes sobering process.  Many agreed this is a theme that is overdue serious consideration.  But one comment stood out.  ‘Why don’t you consider the stress you cause, not just the stress you experience?’ the comment read.    Next month we will be releasing the results of the largest and most comprehensive survey  on stress in the UK .   It will undoubtedly find that a significant amount of stress we experience comes from the interaction we have with other people in our lives.    So,  I decided to do a very unscientific survey.  I wanted to know from  coll eagues, friends and family about the stress that I cause them, how often it happened and in what ways I co...